Gifting presence: Making time for self-care

The holiday season often comes wrapped in ribbons of joy—but also tangled in stress, unrealistic expectations and exhaustion. This year, focus on reducing seasonal stressors and prioritizing wellbeing, connection and quality time.

Slow down and approach the holidays with more heart and less hustle, remembering that the most valuable gift you can give is your full, present self.

Self-care is essential, not selfish

Too often, we put ourselves last on the to-do list. But remember, your emotional wellbeing is the foundation for being able to truly show up for those you love. Here are five simple ways to nurture yourself each day:

1. Start each day with intention. Even 10 minutes of quiet can shift your energy.
2. Say no, gracefully. Boundaries are a beautiful act of self-respect.
3. Establish tech-free time. Be authentically there. Listen fully and laugh freely.
4. Move your body mindfully. Stretch. Walk. Breathe.
5. Rest unapologetically. Renewal comes through sleep, stillness and true downtime.

Choose peace over perfection

You don’t need a perfect dinner or fancy decorations to make the holidays special. Focus on connection, laughter and shared moments. Order takeout, wear comfy clothes and do what nourishes you, not what drains you. The holiday season can be joyful, but it can also bring stress. Here are some tips to help you enjoy a calmer, happier holiday:

• Be realistic about what you can accomplish. Don’t aim for perfection; simplify and downsize wherever possible.
• Avoid heavy debates. If someone brings up an uncomfortable topic, stay calm and politely change the subject.
• Try new traditions. If old holiday rituals feel burdensome, experiment with new ways to celebrate.
• Stay active. Physical activity is a strong stress reliever and helps burn extra holiday calories. Consider going for a walk before or after meals.
• Moderate alcohol consumption. Alternate alcoholic drinks with water, or choose non-alcoholic beverages.
• Take breaks during events. Step outside for a few minutes to reset if social situations feel stressful.

Working on emotional wellbeing

An important part of emotional wellbeing is being able to regulate our moods, thoughts, impulses and choices in
all kinds of situations. People with high emotional wellbeing actively manage their feelings when confronted with
change, uncertainty and even hardship.

To better control your emotions, try mindfulness techniques like meditation or deep breathing. When you experience
upsetting emotions, remind yourself to calm down, breathe and think clearly. Don’t react until you feel like you have
your emotions under control.

In a season full of noise, choose presence. Give yourself permission to rest, breathe and just be, so you can show up fully for the ones who matter most. Take care of yourself this season. You deserve a stress-free holiday!

Visit MagellanHealthcare.com/2025-Holidays for more information and helpful resources.

Family caregivers are the unsung heroes who provide vital support to older adults and people with disabilities. In the U.S., over 53 million family caregivers (up from 43.5 million in 2015) give unpaid care to loved ones—often while juggling jobs, family and their own wellbeing.

• 61% manage caregiving while working full- or part-time.
• 60 – 70% are women.
• 72% skip regular doctor visits because of their responsibilities.
• 41% report low overall wellbeing, and nearly half (47%) have experienced anxiety, depression or other mental health challenges in the past year.
• 45% have faced at least one financial hardship due to caregiving.

Experts remind caregivers: you don’t need to be perfect. Focus on what you can control, take one day at a time and make space for your own care. Visit MagellanHealthcare.com/about/bh-resources/mymh or call your program for confidential mental health resources.

Working on Social Wellbeing

• Those people with social wellbeing have strong interpersonal relationships and have love in their lives that gives them positive energy. It helps to maintain multiple close relationships that encourage you to achieve, be healthy and enjoy life.
• It’s wise to cultivate your existing relationships: strengthen your family bonds and nurture your friendships. Always seek out new connections and participate in your community. Share your talents for the benefit of those around you.

Practical strategies to prevent burnout, sustain resilience, and enhance wellbeing in today’s evolving workplace.

For those working in mental health and counseling, the concept of balance is more than a buzzword. It is a professional necessity. Clinicians are tasked with bringing empathy, presence, and emotional resilience to every session. But without proper attention to their own wellbeing, even the most dedicated professionals risk burnout or compassion fatigue. 

Recent insights (Krishnan, 2025) highlight practical strategies that help therapists and professionals in other high-stress fields maintain balance while sustaining their ability to deliver meaningful, high-quality care. 

The Role of Compartmentalization  

While it may be impossible to completely separate work from personal life, establishing clear mental transitions is key. For therapists, preparing intentionally for each session helps protect emotional bandwidth. For professionals outside of healthcare, similar rituals such as closing the laptop at a set time or creating a “commute” routine when working from home can signal to the brain that it is time to shift gears. 

The Power of Self-Care 

We often encourage clients, colleagues, or employees to invest in self-care. But do we practice what we preach? Prioritizing small but consistent habits such as a healthy diet, regular movement, hobbies, or simply time with loved ones can replenish energy reserves and keep stress from becoming chronic. 

Seeking Support  

Another powerful tool for preventing burnout is therapy itself. For clinicians, engaging in their own counseling provides a safe space to process the emotional challenges of the work. For professionals in any field, peer support, mentorship, or coaching can offer fresh perspectives and reduce feelings of isolation. 

Setting Boundaries  

Boundaries are more than time management. They are a declaration of value for both work and personal life. Protecting time off, saying no when necessary, and designating physical spaces for work and rest can help ensure that neither domain overshadows the other. 

Leveraging Professional Growth & Technology   

Continuous learning keeps work engaging and prevents stagnation. Structured professional development or specialized training can renew a sense of purpose. Meanwhile, technology such as calendar reminders, efficient case management tools, or project platforms can streamline tasks and free up valuable mental energy for meaningful work. 

Why This Matters Now  

In today’s post-pandemic world, where remote and hybrid work have blurred the boundaries between professional and personal life, intentional balance is not optional—it is essential. Creating structures that support wellbeing does more than benefit individuals; it sustains the overall health of organizations by reducing turnover, improving performance, and fostering resilience across teams. 

Work-life balance is not a one-time achievement. It is an ongoing practice. For mental health professionals and leaders alike, modeling and encouraging balance is one of the most powerful ways to sustain both personal wellbeing and professional excellence. 

Reference:  

• Krishnan, R. (2025). Maintaining Work-Life Balance as a Therapist. Behavioralhealthnews.org. Accessed 8/2/2025. 

About the Author 

Dr. Trina Hammonds is a field consultant with the Federal Occupational Health Employee Assistance Program. As a licensed professional counselor (LPC) and Certified Employee Assistance Professional (CEAP), she counsels and consults federal employees. Since joining Federal Occupational Health in 2020, Dr. Hammonds has worked with over 40 agencies based in Atlanta, Georgia. Recently recognized by the Atlanta Federal Executive Board for her outstanding collaborative efforts with the Department of Labor, Dr. Hammonds has worked hard to establish relationships between federal agencies and Magellan’s Employee Assistance Program. With over 20 years of experience in the public and private sectors, Dr. Hammonds has devoted her career to helping others. Dr. Hammonds resides in the suburban Atlanta area, where she enjoys spending time with her daughter and grandson. 

Mental health plays a crucial role in every aspect of life: work, relationships, physical health and overall wellbeing. Mental health screenings are a simple and effective way to check in on how you’re feeling and identify whether symptoms of conditions like depression or anxiety might be present. A mental health screening is a brief questionnaire designed to spot signs of potential concerns. It’s not a diagnosis, but it can help you or a loved one decide if it’s time to reach out for professional support.

Why screen?

• Depression and other mental health issues can affect anyone regardless of age, background or lifestyle.
• Screenings can catch early signs before symptoms become more serious.
• Early support can lead to better outcomes and prevent long-term impacts.
• Treatment can improve daily functioning and quality of life at work, school and home.

Visit MagellanHealthcare.com/about/bh-resources/mymh or call your program for confidential mental health resources.

On July 29, 2025, Kimberly Elias, a National Board-Certified Health and Wellness Coach and Partnership Executive at Magellan Health, led a 15-minute webinar titled Improve Your Self-Esteem. Whether you joined us live or are just catching up now, this recap highlights the key takeaways from her thoughtful discussion. 

How do you define self-esteem, and why is it so important in daily life?
Self-esteem is an individual’s overall evaluation of their own worth and value as a person. It’s a core part of who we are and often takes root in childhood. While it’s deeply ingrained, it’s not necessarily fixed and can shift depending on the life events and circumstances we experience. 

Having healthy self-esteem is important because it affects our overall quality of life. When our self-esteem is low, it can hold us back from pursuing goals, taking risks or fully enjoying life. It can create a constant inner dialogue of self-doubt that limits our potential. 

What’s the difference between self-esteem and self-confidence?  

Self-confidence is more about believing in your ability to accomplish a specific task or succeed in a particular situation. Self-esteem is your overall sense of self-worth. 

For example, someone might feel very confident in the kitchen. They can follow a recipe, prepare a healthy meal and serve it to their family with ease. But when they receive compliments for that meal, they might struggle to accept them. Deep down, they may not feel worthy of the praise or even worthy of enjoying the meal themselves. That’s low self-esteem, despite high confidence in a particular skill. 

The reverse is also true. A person can have healthy self-esteem but still lack confidence when trying something new or unfamiliar.  

What does low self-esteem look like in someone’s day-to-day life? 

Someone who’s struggling with low self-esteem will often experience persistent negative self-talk. This internal dialogue can be overly critical and, at times, excessive. People with low self-esteem often engage in people-pleasing, have a hard time trusting their own decisions and struggle to advocate for themselves. They tend to compare themselves to others constantly, which reinforces feelings of inadequacy. Setting healthy boundaries can also be a major challenge. 

What does healthy self-esteem look and feel like in action? 

Healthy self-esteem is rooted in an internal sense of worth, not external achievements or opinions. A person with healthy self-esteem doesn’t define themselves by what’s happening around them. 

Take the example of someone training for a marathon. Let’s say they didn’t hit the time they were aiming for. Instead of seeing that as a personal failure or a reflection of their worth, they’re still able to view themselves in a positive light. They recognize the effort they put in, celebrate the progress they made and maintain their sense of self-worth regardless of the outcome. 

People with healthy self-esteem believe they have value simply because they exist, not because they checked a box, earned an award or met someone else’s expectations. That belief empowers them to take on challenges, bounce back from setbacks and keep moving forward without letting self-doubt take over. 

What are some simple tools and strategies someone can use to build stronger self-esteem? 

If you’re struggling with low self-esteem, there are several practical things you can try to start rebuilding that inner sense of value. 

Get Out of Your Head and Into the World
People with low self-esteem often get stuck in their heads, cycling through negative thoughts. One of the best antidotes to that mental chatter is action, especially helping others. Volunteering for a cause you care about, helping a neighbor or spending time at an animal shelter can help you feel purposeful and valued. And in giving your time or skills to someone else, you’re also showing yourself that you matter. 

Limit Social Media Intake
If you find yourself constantly scrolling and feeling worse about yourself afterward, it might be time for a digital detox. Try reducing the time you spend on social media or even taking a break altogether. Many people report a boost in self-worth and clarity once they’re no longer comparing themselves to the highlight reels of others. 

Use Affirmations with Action
Affirmations can be powerful, but only when backed by real behavior. Simply repeating “I am a healthy person” won’t move the needle unless you follow it up with choices that reinforce that belief. 

For example: 

• Affirmation: I am a healthy person. 

• Supporting behaviors: 
  • Go for a 20-minute walk daily
  • Replace soda with water
  • Meditate five days a week

Commit to reinforcing your affirmation with action for 30 days. You’ll start to notice meaningful changes not just in how you feel, but how you show up. 

Reflect Daily on What You Did Well
Take a few minutes each evening to write down two or three things you did well. This simple habit trains your brain to recognize your strengths and efforts, which boosts self-esteem over time. 

Remove Barriers That Undermine Your Self-Worth
Sometimes, improving self-esteem isn’t just about what you do, it’s also about what you stop doing. If there are toxic relationships, excessive drinking or unhealthy environments holding you back, begin taking steps to distance yourself from them.

Try Mental Check-Ins Throughout the Day
Here’s how it works: 

• Set an alarm to go off every 2–3 hours during your day. 

• When it rings, pause and ask yourself: 
  • What have I been thinking about?
  • What’s the quality of those thoughts? Are they helpful or hurtful?
  • How am I feeling emotionally and physically right now?
  • What do I need in this moment?

Maybe it’s a glass of water, a five-minute break in the sun or simply a deep breath. This practice builds self-awareness, helps reframe negative thoughts and encourages self-care in real time. 

Building self-esteem isn’t about becoming someone different, it’s about remembering who you are underneath the noise of self-doubt, comparison and outside expectations. It’s a lifelong process of learning to value yourself, advocate for your needs and show up with self-compassion, even on the hard days. 

If you missed the Magellan Minute, listen to the recording here. 

Good nutrition has a major impact on your mental health and wellbeing. Certain foods and nutrients help your brain make chemicals that can improve your mood, attention and focus, while less healthy foods sap your energy.

• Foods that provide a quick energy boost but can leave you with low energy and mood later on include flour-based items such as breads, crackers and baked goods, plus sugar-sweetened beverages and snacks.
• A meal that effectively fuels your mood is one that combines complex carbohydrates with lean proteins and colorful produce. For example, complex carbohydrates from whole foods (like sweet potatoes, rolled oats, beans and quinoa) can boost the feel-good chemical serotonin in your brain.
• Protein consumption (from foods like fish, beef, chicken, turkey, tofu, beans, eggs and unsweetened yogurt) has been linked to higher levels of dopamine and norepinephrine—brain chemicals that impact your mood, motivation and concentration.
• Fruits and vegetables are high in nourishing vitamins, minerals and antioxidants and have also been shown to boost happiness.

Working on wellbeing: Working on emotional wellbeing

• Being emotionally well is key to your overall wellbeing. People with high emotional wellbeing know and apply their natural strengths, are resilient when faced with challenges, and regularly utilize positive self-talk.
• Support your emotional health by learning things outside of your comfort zone, connecting supportively with others, being physically active, offering forgiveness, embracing your successes and being kind to yourself and others.

On May 29, 2025, Dr. Nicoletta Tessler, CEO of BeMe Health, led a powerful and engaging 15-minute webinar titled Practice Healthy Social Media Use. Whether you joined us live or are just catching up now, this recap highlights the key takeaways from her thoughtful and timely discussion.

When Is It “Too Much”?

We all know that technology and social media are deeply ingrained in our daily lives. But how do we know when it becomes too much? According to Dr. Tessler, the tipping point is personal, but a useful indicator is when social media starts to interfere with your quality of life, relationships or mental health. She walked us through several signs that it may be time to reassess your usage:

• Diminished Presence: Difficulty staying focused on conversations or activities without checking your phone.
• Mental Health Impact: Increases in anxiety, depression, loneliness or low self-worth triggered by online comparisons or seeking validation.
• Sleep Disruption: Nighttime device use affecting sleep quality and next-day energy.
• Productivity Loss: More time spent consuming content than creating or doing meaningful work.
• Relationship Strain: Loved ones feeling neglected or disconnected because of your screen time.
• Impulse Use: Reaching for your phone out of habit rather than intent.
• Physical Symptoms: Eye strain, poor posture and other device-related discomfort.

If these sound familiar, ask yourself: Is this enhancing or diminishing the life I want to lead? If it’s the latter, it may be time to set some healthier boundaries.

Emotional and Mental Health Impacts

Dr. Tessler emphasized the profound emotional and mental effects of excessive social media use:

• Anxiety and Stress: Constant notifications increase stress and feed the Fear of Missing Out (FOMO).
• Depression: Exposure to idealized, filtered lives can lead to feelings of inadequacy.
• Loneliness: Virtual overuse often replaces meaningful real-world connection, ironically increasing isolation.
• Low Self-Esteem: Social comparison and the pursuit of online validation can erode internal confidence.
• Cognitive Fatigue: Frequent multitasking and content switching train our brains for distraction, reducing focus and deep thinking.
• Sleep Issues: Late-night screen time disrupts circadian rhythms and melatonin production.
• Emotional Dysregulation: Overexposure to intense content can heighten emotional reactivity or dull it.
• Addictive Patterns: Social media use activates dopamine-driven reward cycles, creating compulsive habits.

So, What Can We Do?

Dr. Tessler offered a multi-part framework for building a healthier relationship with technology.

Set Clear, Intentional Boundaries

• Establish time limits on social media use.
• Create device-free zones, especially in the bedroom.
• Set a tech curfew, and honor it, even on weekends.

• Before picking up your phone, ask yourself: Why am I doing this?
• Avoid grazing on content throughout the day. Schedule your social media time.

• Share your boundaries with others to normalize healthy tech use.
• Be a role model, not just for others, but for yourself.

Make Time for Real Connection

• Schedule regular in-person time with friends and family.
• Use your device to call or FaceTime, not just text.

Focus on What Adds Value

• Try a digital detox—start with 15 minutes, an hour or a day.
• Replace doom-scrolling with meditation or mindfulness apps.

• Turn off non-essential notifications to reduce distractions.
• Rearrange your home screen to hide attention-grabbing icons.

• Unfollow or mute any accounts that don’t make you feel good.
• Audit your tech use weekly or monthly.
• Ask yourself: Is this helping or harming? Make small adjustments as needed.

Final Thoughts: Start Small, Start Somewhere… Just, START

Dr. Tessler closed the session with this reminder: The goal is not to eliminate technology, but to become more conscious about how we use it. Here are her parting words of wisdom:

• Recognize early signs. Just like with physical health, mental wellbeing requires proactive care.
• Start somewhere. You don’t need to be perfect, just begin.
• Have self-empathy. You’d be patient with a friend starting something new; be just as kind to yourself.

You don’t have to overhaul everything at once. Taking one small step toward better balance is how meaningful change begins.

If you missed the Magellan Minute, listen to the recording here.

Mind Your Mental Health

During the summer, your mental health can be affected by longer days, oppressive heat and changes in schedules. Here are some ways to keep mentally healthier during those lazy-hazy-crazy days.

• Stay active by going for walks or hikes, or doing yoga outdoors, during the cooler morning hours.
• Make sure you always stay hydrated.
• Sit in the shade and express yourself by writing in a journal. Or read a stimulating book.
• Regularly meet with friends and/or family (in cool locations!) to share insights on what’s going on your life.
• If you’re struggling with an issue such as depression, anxiety, trauma, OCD, substance abuse or relationship problems, reach out to your program for professional assistance.
• Check in on your vulnerable neighbors during heat waves.
• If you’re traveling, make sure to refill your prescriptions in advance.

Visit MagellanHealthcare.com/about/bh-resources/mymh or call your program for confidential mental health resources.

Working on Wellbeing: Working on Career Wellbeing

• Career wellbeing is about finding meaning in the work you do, whether it’s paid or volunteer. It’s easier to feel fulfilled when your tasks align with your strengths and interests.
• Celebrate your successes and the successes of your team. When you find joy in your work, you’ll not only perform better, but you’ll also help boost morale and contribute to a positive, productive work environment.