Resources for Supporting Your Teen’s Mental Health

Military life can be exciting and adventurous, but it also comes with challenges, especially for teens who face frequent moves, deployments, and the stress of a parent serving in harm’s way. This toolkit offers tips for military parents to help their teens navigate these challenges and maintain good mental health.

Communication is Key

• Initiate Conversations: Don’t wait for your teen to “open up”. Regularly check in with them about their day, school, friends, and feelings.
• Active Listening: When your teen talks, truly listen. Put away distractions, avoid interrupting them, offer empathy, and ask clarifying questions.
• “I” Statements: Use “I” statements to express your concerns without sounding accusatory. For example, “I worry when you stay up so late” instead of “Why are you always up so late?”
• Respect Privacy: Respect your teen’s need for privacy but establish boundaries. Let them know you’re always available to talk.
• Deployment Discussions: Talk about deployments well before they happen. Address their worries about safety, missing friends, and managing household responsibilities.
• Deployment Traditions: Create routines or traditions to maintain connection during deployments. This could be a weekly video call, writing letters together, or sending a small care package each week.

Building Resilience

• Develop Routines: Establish consistent routines at home and school, even during deployments. This provides a sense of normalcy and stability.
• Encourage Exercise: Regular physical activity reduces stress, improves mood, and promotes healthy sleep patterns.
• Healthy Eating: Focus on providing nutritious meals and snacks to fuel your teen’s body and mind.
• Relaxation Techniques: Teach your teen relaxation techniques like deep breathing exercises, mindfulness meditation, or progressive muscle relaxation.
• Positive Coping Mechanisms: Help your teen develop healthy coping mechanisms like journaling, creative outlets, or spending time in nature.

Recognizing Signs of Trouble

• Emotional Changes: Be aware of sudden changes in mood like increased irritability, sadness, or anger.
• Behavioral Changes: Watch for social withdrawal, neglecting hobbies, or increased risk-taking behaviors.
• School Struggles: Pay attention to slipping grades, difficulty concentrating, or lack of motivation for schoolwork.
• Physical Changes: Notice changes in sleep patterns, energy levels, appetite, or self-care habits.
• Substance Abuse: Be aware of signs of drug or alcohol use, which can be a way of self-medicating.

Getting Help

• MFLC Program: The Military and Family Life Counseling (MFLC) program helps military families overcome challenges with free non-medical face-to-face support. Services are private and confidential with a few exceptions. Support is available at many installations and affiliated schools.
• Military OneSource: This program offers a variety of resources, including:
• 24/7 confidential counseling: Speak with a licensed therapist specializing in military families.
• Workshops and webinars: Learn about common challenges teens face and develop coping strategies.
• Online resources: Access articles, videos, and tools to support your teen’s well-being.
• Chaplain Services: Chaplains offer non-denominational emotional and spiritual support and can be a valuable resource during difficult times.
• Military Teen Support Groups: Connecting with other teens facing similar challenges can be a source of comfort and understanding. Talk to your teen’s school counselor or local military base about support groups.
• Mental Health Professionals: If your teen needs more comprehensive support, consider seeking help from a therapist specializing in adolescents or military families.

Additional Resources

• National Child Traumatic Stress Network: https://www.samhsa.gov/
• The Trevor Project: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/ (for LGBTQ+ youth)

Remember:

• Take care of yourself. A healthy parent can better support a healthy teen.
• Celebrate accomplishments. Acknowledge your teen’s strengths and resilience.
• Be patient. Building resilience and coping skills takes time and practice.
• Seek professional help if needed. Don’t hesitate to ask for help if you feel overwhelmed or your teen needs additional support.
• The military community is here for you. There are many resources available to support you and your family.

The Importance of Finding a Community Wherever You Land

The military lifestyle is one full of constant change and often accompanied by stress, anxiety, and loneliness. One factor that weighs heavily on many military members and their families is the isolation that comes from the nomadic nature of frequent permanent change of station (PCS) moves over the course of a Service member’s career (Tong et al., 2018).

Everyday Burdens Feel Twice as Heavy When Going it Alone

Humans are, by nature, creatures that live in groups with close familial and social bonds. Military families uproot multiple times over the course of a career, and at each new location, are faced with a choice: build a new circle of people or go it alone. While a strong sense of independence and self-reliance are strengths that most Service members and their family members develop, it is crucial that they reach out at new commands and make the effort to meet people they can absorb into their circle of people that they can rely on. Where a civilian family may have the luxury of grandparents nearby to help with picking up a sick child from school, a cousin who is a great fixer to help around the house, or childhood best friends to recharge with after a long week, a military family often finds themselves alone in a new city with no sources of support (Tong et al., 2018). Certainly, families can hire babysitters, repair companies, and take time for themselves, but there is something incredibly valuable in having an established community or group of people you belong to who become your supporters. Deployments are times when this is especially important. Having people to turn to while a spouse is away allows the spouse at home to have support and companionship. It also gives the deployed Service member the freedom to focus on their mission knowing that their family is supported by a trusted community at home.

The Military Culture is Built on Shared Experience and Supporting Each Other

There are a lot of built-in ways for military families to connect with other families. Military and Family Life Counselors (MFLCs) can support them by giving encouragement to take the first step. A command Ombudsman is an excellent resource for connecting families with each other and with important local resources! The Morale, Welfare, and Recreation (MWR) center often holds events and activities where members and their families can meet other families (Ways to Settle In to Your New Home and Community 2024). Military members and families experience many of the same challenges and are often happy to lend a hand when someone needs help. Making those initial connections makes finding support much easier. Meeting people is sometimes not the hardest part; putting in the effort to make plans and build relationships can seem daunting on top of an already busy schedule. For some, knowing that another move is inevitable makes building relationships with people they will have to say goodbye to in a few years seem pointless. While saying goodbye is difficult, life is made richer by having made connections with individuals and having experiences with others, even if only for a short time.

When working with our military members and families, MFLCs provide a source of support and encouragement but also resources that they can use to strengthen their support system and coping skills outside of the counseling sessions. So make sure to build a community circle to feel connected to wherever you land!

References

• Tong, P. K., Payne, L. A., Bond, C. A., Meadows, S. O., Lewis, J. L., Friedman, E. M., & Maksabedian Hernandez, E. J. (2018). (rep.). Enhancing Family Stability During a Permanent Change of Station: A Review of Disruptions and Policies. Rand Corporation. Retrieved July 31, 2024, from https://www.rand.org/content/dam/rand/pubs/research_reports/RR2300/RR2304/RAND_RR2304.pdf.
• Ways to Settle In to Your New Home and Community. Military OneSource. (2024, July 29). https://www.militaryonesource.mil/resources/millife-guides/settling-in-to-a-new-home/

“Being a teenager is easy,” said no one, ever. Pressure to fit in, taking risks, and learning how to navigate the world are all cornerstones of normal teenage life. On top of these pressures, military teens have the added stress of Permanent Change of Station (PCS) moves.

When a PCS occurs, teens often feel sad leaving their friends and anxious about finding a new social group. While this can be an overwhelming and difficult time, Military and Family Life Counselors (MFLCs) can help ease the transition into a new place by inviting teens to join lunch groups, connecting them to peers with similar interests, and sharing local events. In addition to MFLC support, there are resources available for teens and parents as they acclimate to their environment.

Youth Resources

• On-post youth centers offer military youth a fun, safe place with activities for a variety of interests. At these centers, teens can connect with their peers and support staff.
• Military teen adventure camps, Operation Purple, the Boys and Girls Club, the YMCA, and 4-H all offer age-appropriate opportunities for military kids to join a social group, learn new skills, and build confidence.
• School programs such as Student 2 Student can help teens feel supported and connected when starting a new school.

 Parent Resources

• Military OneSource provides information on the Interstate Compact and the Exceptional Family Members Program, which can be useful to parents when they register their children in school and have concerns about loss of credit hours or setting up 504 or Individualized Education Plan (IEP) plans.
• The Military Child Educational Coalition offers resources for families such as a PCS checklist and a military student consultant.

A PCS move during the teen years can be life-changing for military-connected kids. However, with the help of MFLC support and the many resources available to them, it can also be a fun, exciting, and positive experience.

Sources

• https://www.militaryonesource.mil/benefits/military-youth-teen-programs/
• https://www.militarychild.org/programs-and-initiatives/military-student-consultants/

Transitioning from a structured military life to the civilian workforce is a significant change that is often met with uncertainty and frustration. For transitioning Service members, the process can feel overwhelming with endless options, possibilities, and decisions to make, often leading to decision fatigue. When mental fatigue and frustration set in, so does stress.

It is often extremely hard for Service members to translate and adjust their military duties into civilian terms so that they can enter the civilian workforce. Magellan Federal helps deliver the Education and Employment Initiative (E2I), which has a wonderful model of support to ease the transition. Here are some tips our E2I coordinators often give to ease the transition to a civilian career.

Tips for Transitioning to the Civilian Workforce

• Do not have visions of grandeur facilitated by the “Thank You for your Service” effect. This does not guarantee employment. While your Service is a unique differentiator, the job market is very competitive.
• Start the transition process early. It is recommended that you start your planning 18 months to 2 years before the end of service. Make your transition the number one priority.
• Knowledge is power. Thoroughly research career information resources. This information will help you make the best career choice for yourself and your family.
• Avoid the chatter. Do not get caught up in conversations with military peers or leadership who know as little as you do about transitioning to the civilian workforce.
• Know your value. Do what has always made you successful. Work hard, make a plan, and execute your plan. There is always a need for quality, hardworking, and dependable professionals.
• Adjust your military duties into civilian terms. Put in the work to translate your resume to skills and abilities that resonate with the civilian workforce. Reach out to civilian friends and family to network and get advice.
• Take advantage of transition resources. If you are assigned to a warrior transition unit or are going through a medical board, take advantage of the Employment and Education Initiative (E2I) program.

The E2I Program

The Education and Employment Initiative (E2I) is a Department of Defense (DOD) program that assists wounded, ill, and injured service members early in their recovery process to identify their skills and match them with the education and career opportunities that will help them successfully transition to civilian life.  E2I is available to all wounded, ill, and injured service members in all branches of the military services, as well as all components of those services: Active, Guard and Reserve.

E2I Regional Coordinators are located throughout the United States. These individuals work with wounded, ill, and injured service members to identify skills, career opportunities that match those skills, and determine educational requirements for a desired career path.

Even if you are not able to participate in the E2I program, your military experience can serve as a wonderful foundation for a successful civilian career.

For many Service members, dealing with an injury or illness can change the entire trajectory of their career paths, leaving them unsure of their future. According to the Government Accountability Office, over 200,000 military personnel leave the military annually. While most of these Service members leave on their own terms, many leave for medical reasons caused by their active-duty service. What happens when a military career ends unexpectedly and how do we take care of our recovering Service members?

Military Transition Challenges

In addition to experiencing anxiety and uncertainty around a new civilian career, some additional challenges veterans may experience with transitioning from military life to civilian life include:

Health Concerns: Health is a top concern for veterans after separating from military service. A Veterans Affairs study found that 53% of participants reported having chronic physical health conditions within three months of leaving the military. Additionally, mental health conditions such as anxiety, depression, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) may worsen during this period.

• Identity Reevaluation: The abrupt end of a military career can lead to a profound identity crisis. Veterans may struggle with defining their sense of purpose and self-worth outside the military.
• Navigating Services: Veterans transitioning out of the military may need to learn how to access civilian services such as healthcare, life insurance, and other benefits. These services were previously provided by the military, so adjusting to the new system can be challenging.
• Social Network Changes: Leaving the military means losing the built-in social network that comes with military life. Veterans may find it difficult to establish new connections and maintain a sense of camaraderie.
• Employment: While most veterans successfully transition into civilian jobs, others face difficulties in finding suitable employment. Adjusting to a different work environment and culture can be a significant challenge.
• Paperwork and Benefits: Navigating the paperwork and processes involved in obtaining benefits and services from the Department of Veterans Affairs can be overwhelming. Veterans may need assistance in understanding their entitlements and how to access them.

Navigating the Transition to Civilian Employment

Magellan Federal helps solve the problems of Service members transitioning from the military to the civilian sector. Operation Warfighter (OWF) is a Department of Defense (DoD) internship program that provides opportunities for recovering Service members to participate in internships with Federal agencies during their medical board and rehabilitation process.

The main objective of OWF is to place recovering Service members in supportive work settings that positively impact their recovery. The program presents opportunities to facilitate the recovering Service members’ development and employment readiness by assisting in providing comprehensive resources that assist them with their transition and support their needs. This is done through resume building, exploring employment interests, and developing job skills through internship opportunities. Currently, there are over 533 participating Federal agencies that accept OWF interns.

Building Skills for a Civilian Career

Magellan’s Regional Coordinators (RCs) work with the recovering Service members to help identify areas of interest and hone in on transferable skills along with soft skills they have gained through their military service. Our Regional Coordinators coach them on how to build resumes, LinkedIn profiles, and make suggestions to assist them in learning how to navigate a civilian workforce setting. Our Regional Coordinators partner with all branches of service and work closely with Transition Coordinators, Recovery Care Coordinators, Physical Evaluation Board Liaison Officers, Command Teams, Medical Providers, and Individual Disability Evaluation System staff to ensure participation is in the best interest of the recovering Service member.

The average Medical Board process lasts between 180 days (about 6 months) to 1 year. The OWF program is a valuable experience that lasts between 90 and 120 days (about 4 months). Participation in OWF can positively impact recovery time, provide valuable work experience in a non-military environment, and assist with developing new skills while providing benefits of career preparedness upon transition to civilian life.

All OWF Regional Coordinators have personal experience as military spouses or have served in the military themselves. They understand the military lifestyle and culture, and the stress surrounding transitioning out of the service.

Getting Started

Operation Warfighter Regional Coordinators are in 10 different regions throughout the United States. These individuals work with wounded, ill, and injured Service members at all military installations. A Service member can participate in OWF if they are on active duty and meet the basic criteria of being enrolled in the Integrated Disability Evaluation System (IDES) and/or assigned to a service Wounded Warrior program. The first step in the OWF process is to obtain “medical and command approval” from the Service member’s recovery team and chain of command. Once they are determined to be ready to participate, a Regional Coordinator assists the individual in identifying an internship opportunity based on their interests and capabilities.

The Operation Warfighter program is a wonderful opportunity for Service members to get real-world work experience to ease the transition to civilian life. Magellan Federal is proud to deliver OWF services that make a difference in the lives of recovering Service members around the nation.

As our understanding of soldier wellness evolves, it’s clear that a comprehensive approach is essential. In today’s military landscape, physical fitness alone isn’t enough – mental toughness is equally crucial. The U.S. Army Combatives Program serves as a prime platform to nurture this mental resilience, offering Soldiers a pathway to peak performance both on and off the battlefield.

The U.S. Army Combatives Program, which includes hand-to-hand combat training, offers a valuable avenue to promote mental well-being and overall performance among soldiers. Beyond its traditional role in honing physical combat skills, this program has evolved to encompass a broader mission – one that emphasizes the cultivation of mental resilience as a cornerstone of soldier effectiveness.

Building Mental Resilience

The benefit of combat sports is that they cultivate mental toughness like no other. Soldiers are pushed to their limits, not just physically but mentally, fostering adaptability, perseverance, and a steadfast attitude in the face of adversity. Studies, such as those published in the Journal of Applied Sport Psychology, underscore combat sports’ profound impact on enhancing mental toughness – a cornerstone of soldier effectiveness in high-stress environments.

Fostering Unity within Units

Engaging in combat sports brings Soldiers together uniquely and intensely. It strengthens team members’ bonds, trust, and camaraderie, enhancing unit cohesion and morale. A 2020 study in the Journal of Military, Veteran, and Family Health found that Soldiers who participated in combatives training reported higher levels of cohesion and teamwork – vital components for mission success.

Providing an Outlet for Frustration and Stress

The rigors of military life often lead to pent-up frustration and stress. The Combatives Program provides Soldiers with a constructive outlet to channel these emotions. By engaging in controlled physical exertion, soldiers can mitigate stress and avoid detrimental coping mechanisms. Studies, such as those in the Journal of Military Psychology, affirm the therapeutic benefits of combat sports in stress management among military personnel.

Integration of Mental Performance Consultants

To unlock the full potential of combative training, the integration of mental performance consultants is paramount. Thes specialists offer soldiers cognitive tools and strategies to optimize their performance in combat and everyday life. From stress management to enhancing focus and resilience, mental performance consultants provide a holistic approach to soldier wellness.

Improving Decision-Making Under Stress

In high-stakes scenarios, split-second decisions can mean the difference between success and failure. Research in Military Psychology underscores how combat sports improve decision-making under stress. Mental performance consultants further refine this skill, equipping soldiers with the mental fortitude to think critically and act decisively in the heat of battle.

Enhancing Recovery and Resilience

Injuries and setbacks are a part of military life, and mental resilience is crucial for recovery. Mental performance consultants can guide soldiers in maintaining a positive mindset during rehabilitation, reducing the psychological impact of injuries, and facilitating a quicker return to peak performance. The U.S. Army Combatives Program offers a wealth of mental benefits essential for Soldier wellness and performance. By fostering mental toughness, unit cohesion, and stress management, this program contributes significantly to Soldier readiness.

With approximately 1.7 million dependent military children across all branches of the U.S. Armed Forces, experts who support military children must understand the unique experiences and diverse needs that require a specialized counseling approach.

This topic will be the focus of the upcoming Magellan Federal webinar on Thursday, May 16, “Connecting with Military Children: Counseling Techniques for Success.” Expert panelists for this webinar will include:

• Keionna Baker, LPC, LMHC, LCMHC, clinical project manager, Military & Family Life Counseling Program
• Paul Taraborelli LICSW, IMH-E®, child youth behavioral director, Military & Family Life Counseling Program
• Susan Trotman, LCSW, regional supervisor, Military & Family Life Counseling Program

The webinar will focus on trends, concerns, and intervention techniques that create a sense of connectedness and belonging for military-connected children and youth. To attend, register here.

In this Q&A, expert panelist Paul Taraborelli LICSW, IMH-E® shares a preview of information that will be shared in the webinar and why it is critical for counselors and other professionals who work with military children to invest time into enhancing their skills by attending.

Q: What are some key challenges that military children commonly face?

Paul Taraborelli: There are more than 1.7 million military children who face many challenges and unique experiences because of their parents’ service. Military families move on average every two to three years, impacting military children through changing schools and support networks. Military families often experience changes in parents’ access in terms of regular face-to-face contact, changes in caregivers, and changes in family routines due to a military parent being called away from their family to serve and support their mission. To manage these changes during their overall growth and development as a child, military children often rely on resilience skills they develop over time. By acknowledging and celebrating the many unique aspects of military culture and being a military-connected child, we can help these children be equipped to emotionally adjust to challenges throughout their lives.

Q: How do these challenges impact their emotional well-being?

Taraborelli: Due to changes in locations, fluctuations in daily schedules and routines, and the temporary absence of a primary caregiver/parent can lead to short-term and possibly long-term effects on a child’s overall wellbeing and the development of age appropriate social emotional skills.

Q: What are ways that counselors can help military children navigate these transitions and build resilience?

Taraborelli:

Focus topics when working with military children to support and enhance social emotion skill development and reduce stress, including:

• Resiliency skill-building
• Development and use of age-appropriate problem-solving skills
• Development of healthy relationships skill building, including ways to express and manage their emotions

Q: What are some common misconceptions or stereotypes about military children, and how can counselors work to challenge and overcome these misconceptions?

Taraborelli: A common misconception is that military children are used to moving a lot, changing schools, making new friends, and can adjust easily to changes in their lives. Counselors can engage military children in conversations about how they are coping with and adjusting to these changes both in the past and presently. Counselors can explore, identify, and develop age-appropriate coping skills while working with military-connected children. If possible, provide opportunities for peer support through group meetings and activities with other military-connected peers.

Another misconception is that due to attending different schools in different locations, military children are not as academically prepared as their nonmilitary peers. Counselors can explore with military children their learning journey and what they have learned both academically and outside of school during their life as a military child. Counselors can focus on, celebrate, and acknowledge the experiences they have had compared to their nonmilitary peers and how those experiences contribute to their overall sense of self and the skills they have developed academically, socially, and emotionally.

Q: Lastly, what advice would you give to counselors who are looking to enhance their skills and effectiveness in working with military children and their families?

Taraborelli: Make a conscious effort to better understand the unique aspects of military culture and what military children experience in their lives as military children. Use this knowledge to provide additional information and insight when assessing presenting issues or concerns a military child may be facing and develop tailored goals for counseling and support for the child.

“At heart, I’m an educator. If I can help anyone rethink their approach to money and lifestyle choices, which sets them up for life success, that is a plus.” One of our Personal Financial Counselors, Michael Snowdon, recently described what he likes about working with military families as a Magellan Federal Personal Financial Counselor.

The Role of Personal Financial Counselors

In support of the U.S. Dept. of Defense Personal Financial Counseling program, Magellan Federal provides over 300 Personnel Financial Counselors (PFC) on more than 270 military installations and civilian communities globally to help educate, train, and counsel service members and their families on financial wellness.

PFCs provide financial counseling and education for service members and spouses to assist in evaluating diverse financial circumstances, setting and meeting financial goals, and developing skills and strategies necessary to maintain financial wellbeing. Financial counseling and education services are provided to all active-duty members of the Military Services (Army, Navy, Marine Corps, Air Force, and Space Force), National Guard and Reserve members, veterans, and their immediate families.

Our full-time PFCs assist service members with personal financial matters, including retirement and estate planning, credit management and debt reduction, and budgeting. Financial literacy training provides the pathway for sustaining financial wellbeing and resiliency with benchmarks of meeting all financial responsibilities, building wealth, and obtaining a sound financial future and a secure retirement. PFCs are beneficial in providing service members with training and resources to help avoid debt and create practical solutions for financial goals.

PFCs stay in their position for a minimum of 12 months, and then they can choose to stay in place or move to a new open position, including overseas. “We are actively recruiting for qualified financial counselors. Ideally, we look for people in specific geographic places, but we will move folks to new locations, including overseas when needed,” noted Beth Welch, Magellan Federal PFC Program Manager. Here are a few of the stories of how being a PFC is a meaningful career choice.

PFC Stories: Changing Lives and Building Financial Resilience

While financial planners have a variety of career options, becoming a PFC is a good option for those who like to focus on solving problems, educate, and desire a flexible schedule. For some, such as Byron Clark, being a PFC brings tremendous job satisfaction, knowing they are helping our service members.  “As a retired Air Force Officer, I enjoy working around our young service members. When I was in uniform, I saw so many individuals making bad decisions with their finances, and now I help them see the big picture and make sense of their finances.”

Others, such as Madeleine Grene, entered this field after retirement as a University Professor. She notes that she has met many PFCs who stepped away from their original positions, and this is their second career. She notes that she can spend as much time as she likes with individuals to help them understand their finances. “I encounter people who are confused by investment vocabulary. They don’t know the rate of return on their investments or even how their retirement accounts. It is gratifying to see when someone suddenly understands something that was so confusing.”

For some financial planners who start to feel the strain of selling financial products and services, being a PFC offers more predictability and more consistent hours. Many of our PFCs observed that selling products, while lucrative, may not be for everyone, and the focus on education and counseling brings purpose and fits their life goals better.

As Michael Snowdon said, when he was a Financial Planner, he would ask people about their long-term goals, and we would look at investment and future-oriented strategies. Now, he works with people on budgets to handle short-term problems and plan for retirement. He shares that he really enjoys the educational parts of his job. “I know I may never see the results of my work, but I believe I am helping to change the lives of young recruits with how they look at money,” Snowdon says.

Debra Barker, a director of program management for PFC, also likes when people who have private financial planning practices become PFCs. “It is a win-win. We offer benefits and steady income, which may help a financial planner as they are building their business. Once we ensure there is no conflict of interest, these PFCs are able to bring a wealth of knowledge to our service members.”

Making a Difference

USAA and Blue Star Families found that 37% of the 8,000 active-duty service members, Veterans, and family members surveyed in the spring of 2016 felt insecure about their financial futures, and 63% of them reported feeling stressed out because of their current financial circumstances. Our PFCs seek to give the service members the tools to become more financially resilient.

Besides one-on-one counseling, our PFCs provide educational presentations to groups. A commander may ask for a PFC to talk to a group about rethinking their approach to money. Our society is consumer-oriented, and it is easy to focus on buying. PFCs help people reconsider that mindset and help them live within their budget.

Our PFCs do have strict no-go topics. They cannot recommend stocks or make decisions on behalf of a client and are there to give our service members the tools to achieve financial success.

We are always looking to hire qualified PFCs both in the US and abroad. This is an ideal job for military spouses and veterans and allows for job portability with positions! Go to the Magellan Federal career site for job openings!