Explore tips and information to protect your mental health and deal with grief and loss of loved ones due to the worldwide impacts of COVID-19.

When else in our lifetime can we say all people in all countries of the world have directly experienced grief and loss due to the same traumatic event? Now that we are living through the COVID-19 pandemic, this is the sad reality. Our very sense of normalcy has been turned upside down, we have lost loved ones, missed milestones and other life events, and faced social isolation. We all hear about the traumas that occur across our globe – 9/11, weather events, war – and we may be affected; but COVID-19 has profoundly touched and changed each of our lives in many similar ways. As our world is adjusting to a now improving, but still evolving, pandemic, here are some tips to protect our mental health.

Dealing with grief and loss from COVID-19

While it’s never easy when we lose a loved one, grief and loss during the pandemic has been exacerbated by the confusion, fear, and social isolation we have all experienced. The novel coronavirus, COVID-19, did not come with an instruction manual and we had to learn, very quickly, how it was spread, how it affected those who got infected, and how to avoid being infected. Confusion around all of these things, and how a family member or friend could have died from this virus, was inevitable. At the same time, fear of the unknown and for one’s own health and safety was inescapable. Due to the critical social distancing measures, we could not even visit our loved ones in the hospital, even if the worst was expected. We could not begin our grieving process by honoring those we lost with traditional funeral services. As we’re navigating the stages of grief during COVID-19, here are some things to remember:

• You may hear about the “stages of grief,” but it’s normal to bounce back and forth between the stages and not experience them in a linear way.
• No matter what you’re feeling, your feelings are valid, and you are entitled to them; avoid telling yourself you should be feeling one way or another.
• Grieving doesn’t mean you are forgetting or totally letting go.
• It’s important to build a support system.
• With grief comes growth.

Practicing self-care to cope with grief and loss

Grieving is an intensely personal process. We can start to feel better when we reach out to loved ones and professionals for support, but there is no one who knows us better than ourselves, and we can always be our own best advocate. Knowing that our lost loved ones surely would want us to be happy and not suffer, it’s important to prioritize our own self-care and compassion to unlock its immense healing power. Engaging in self-care activities – exercise, journaling, meditation, doing something creative, etc. – can help us build resiliency and mental strength, elevate our mood, process our feelings, and cope effectively. As we strive to take care of and make time for ourselves, the following are some tips to keep in mind:

• Understand that grief is an ongoing process; it requires our self-patience and kindness.
• Realize that helping yourself does not mean you are avoiding the experience, rather that you are embracing it.
• Treat yourself the way you would treat a close friend or family member who is going through the same thing.
• Be deliberate and purposeful in taking breaks to mentally check out and/or do something that makes you happy or laugh.
• Focus on the present to ease the burdens of, and make more palatable, all that must be done that day, week, month, etc.
• Grant yourself permission to feel, as it’s a natural part of the grieving process; understand it’s okay to be vulnerable.

We can find meaning in the losses we have endured through this ordeal. Our lost loved ones gave us many gifts, and we can pick up on those gifts in celebration of their memories. We can embrace life and do the things that make us happy. We can reflect on the changes and losses caused by the pandemic that forced us to reevaluate our priorities, taking with us the good and leaving behind the bad. And we must always remember to seek help when it’s needed.

This month, we are sharing thoughts and insights on the importance of peer support services in healthcare, as well as other systems where peer supporters can be integrated. As the impact of the COVID-19 pandemic continues to be felt across the U.S. and around the world and folks struggle with the fallout, we are seeing an increased need for mental health and substance use disorder services and supports.

COVID-19 mental health impacts  

For many, the virus has taken a terrible toll. Family and friends have been lost. Millions of jobs have been lost. Our collective and individual sense of what is “normal” has been lost.

In a May 14, 2020 news release, the United Nations called for a substantial investment in mental health services to avoid a “massive increase in mental health conditions in the coming months.”

World Health Organization Director-General Dr. Tedros Adhanom Ghebreyesus said this:

“It is now crystal clear that mental health needs must be treated as a core element of our response to and recovery from the COVID-19 pandemic. This is a collective responsibility of governments and civil society, with the support of the whole United Nations System. A failure to take people’s emotional well-being seriously will lead to long-term social and economic costs to society.”

Focus on prevention

Public health experts, media and a growing number of policy makers are urgently emphasizing the critical necessity to take a preventive approach to this crisis, urging people to wear masks in public, practice physical distancing and increase testing. If we don’t embrace prevention, we will not beat this disease.

It’s not just infectious diseases like COVID-19 that require a robust, full court press preventive public health response. We need to get serious about prevention in mental health. A 2015 research article, Preventing Mental Illness: Closing the Evidence-Practice Gap Through Workforce and Service Planning stated:

Despite advances in treatment, there is little evidence that prevalence rates of mental illness are falling. While the prevention of cardiovascular disease and cancers are common in policy dialogue and service delivery, the prevention of mental illness remains a neglected area.

Note the reference to “evidence-practice gap” in the article title. What does that mean? Here’s a great, succinct description from a 2014 article published in PLOS Medicine.

Health research promises societal benefit by making better health possible. However, there has always been a gap between research findings (what is known) and health care practice (what is done), described as the “evidence-practice” or “know-do” gap.

Peer support contributions

So, what are the implications to the peer support workforce I mentioned at the beginning of this article? How does prevention apply to this discussion? Why is there still an “evidence-practice” gap with regard to peer support?

There are 200+ articles published in the literature on peer support. Peer support has long been recognized as an evidence-based practice. In fact, there are several peer-developed, peer-delivered models grounded firmly in the principles of recovery and resiliency, choice and self-determination, and an understanding of a holistic approach to wellness. And these models have been shown to have a positive impact on traditional outcomes, predominantly measured in behavioral health, including significant reductions in hospital admissions, fewer re-admissions and decreased spending on high-cost, restrictive settings like psychiatric inpatient. While peer support is not a clinical service, it has been shown to impact clinical outcomes. Beyond this, folks receiving peer support services express very high degrees of satisfaction with those services and report improved quality of life.

This is an excerpt from the Magellan Healthcare eMpowered for Wellness July newsletter. To read the full article, go here.